Parable of the Wedding Feast: Lessons From a Royal Invitation

The Parable of the Wedding Feast in Matthew 22:1-14 is about a king who invites people to his son’s wedding. When the first guests make excuses about why they can’t come, he opens the invitation to everyone. And it represents the open invitation we all have to the kingdom of heaven.

It has a joy-filled ending for those who wholeheartedly choose it. The invitation includes people who never thought they’d get invited to a royal event. And it shows that the King’s Son (Jesus) provided for everyone to celebrate with Him in the kingdom of heaven.

But it raises questions about the fate of those who refuse the invitation. And of course, why a man who comes to the feast without wedding clothes gets kicked out.

It’s an urgent call for those who make excuses, fight God’s messengers, or try to gain salvation on their own terms. Missing the marriage feast is a personal choice. But it leads to an unhappy ending that Jesus doesn’t want for anyone.

That’s why it’s so important to understand:

• The context of this parable
• How it’s structured
• Its meaning and key principles
• Why it matters for us today

But first, let’s set the stage. It all starts out in the courts of Jerusalem…

Setting the stage for the wedding feast parable

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Jesus told this parable in the temple courts of Jerusalem a few days before He died. His original audience included the Pharisees, scribes, and other Jewish leaders. They opposed Jesus throughout His ministry and hardened their hearts to His messages. And it’s one of several parables in Matthew 21-22 where Jesus calls out their self-righteous pride.¹

Jesus was intentional in centering this parable around a wedding feast.

The Greek word used for wedding or wedding feast is gamos. But since ancient Jewish wedding festivities often lasted for days, Matthew also uses the plural form gamoi, which means “wedding festivities.” Gathering together to enjoy a long-lasting feast was a common Jewish symbol of the privileges and joys of their heritage.”²

Both the Old Testament and New Testament use wedding imagery to represent different aspects of the Gospel message. For example, wedding imagery compares:

• God’s covenant with His people to a marriage covenant (Ezekiel 16:8-14).
• Jesus/God to a bridegroom and husband (Isaiah 54:5-6; 62:4-5; Matthew 9:14-15; John 3:29).
• The church to a bride and Christ to her bridegroom (Ephesians 5:25-32; 2 Corinthians 11:2; Romans 7:4).
• Waiting for Jesus to return to waiting for a wedding (Matthew 25:1-13).
• Ultimate redemption when Jesus returns to a wedding (Revelation 19:7-9; 21:2, 9; 22:17).

In Jesus’ culture and time, wedding feasts lasted for one to two weeks. People were expected to come dressed in their best wedding clothes. It was even a custom in some surrounding cultures of Jesus’ day for wealthy princes to supply each guest with a garment from a royal collection of potentially thousands of garments.³ And it was considered “an insult to decline a wedding invitation or not to dress properly for the occasion.”⁴

These scenes and customs painted a familiar picture for the people in Jesus’ day.

And yet, weddings are timeless. Though wedding customs change, they’re still considered celebratory. And no one can deny that receiving a royal wedding invitation is a rare honor.

Jesus’ first miracle also happened at a wedding feast (John 2:1-11).

Clearly, Bible references to weddings and marriage represent something meaningful on many levels.

The feast imagery was also intentional. Like today, people in Palestine in Jesus’s time often attended food-filled social gatherings. So it was natural for several parables of Jesus to center around feasts. The Bible even records Jesus and His disciples at many gatherings with food and feasting.⁵

That means everyone listening knew the expectations and imagery surrounding such occasions.

This parable only appears in the New Testament Gospel of Matthew. And it’s also called the Parable of the Wedding Banquet. But because of how often Jesus talks about weddings and feasts, it’s easy to confuse it with other parables.

For example, it’s a lot like the Parable of the Great Banquet in Luke 14:16-24. But most experts agree that despite the similarities, they’re not the same parable. For one, Jesus tells them each in two separate locations. But this parable is also about a royal wedding feast, while the other takes place at an ordinary banquet.

It also gets confused with Luke 14:7-11, but a quick read shows that it’s about pride and humility in choosing a seat at a feast.

Bottom line: This Parable of the Wedding Feast in Matthew 22:1-14 is unique, and its message is intentional.

It’s also memorable. Centering the story on a high-profile wedding feast makes it easy to grasp the importance of the Gospel invitation.

With that importance in mind, let’s summarize what the different aspects of the parable can represent.

What each part of the parable can represent

Though the symbols might’ve been clear to the original audience, we come from different times and places (and possibly cultures). So, let’s briefly discuss each one:⁶

King: God the Father
King’s Son/Bridegroom: Jesus Christ, the Son of God
Servants/Messengers: Prophets, Jesus, His disciples, and anyone who shares the Gospel
Wedding Feast: The kingdom of God/kingdom of heaven
Initial guests: Those who reject Jesus or feel like they don’t need Him (originally, many of the religious leaders of the Jews/nation of Israel)
Burning the city: The destruction of Jerusalem in 70 AD by the Romans
Guests who accept: Those who believe the Gospel and follow Jesus
Improper guest: Professed Christians who refuse character transformation
Wedding garment: The righteousness of Christ
Outer darkness: Final separation from God

Now let’s move into the meat of the matter.

Meaning of the parable of the wedding feast

This parable illustrates “the gospel invitation, its rejection by the Jewish people, and the call of mercy to the Gentiles.”⁷ But according to prominent American Bible scholar Ralph Earle, it goes deeper:

“This story teaches two important lessons. The outstanding one is that not all who are called will be saved. Many are called—salvation is universal in its provision—but few are chosen. That is not because God (the king) rejects men, but because [men] reject His call. There is no place here for the idea of ‘effectual calling.’ One may reject God’s call to salvation and be lost.

 

“The other lesson is found in the incident of the man without the wedding garment. Rather obviously, each guest was furnished with one by the king. But one man refused to wear his. He is a type of those who prefer their own righteousness to the righteousness provided by Christ.”⁸

The term “effectual calling” means God doesn’t just select a few to invite to His kingdom. All are invited and all have the chance to accept. Jesus wasn’t teaching predestination.

This parable teaches several key principles:

• We’re all offered salvation, and we can choose to accept or reject it.
• Some react with indifference because of a preoccupation with other things in life.
• Others actually fight against the true Gospel message and those who share it.
• Some start to accept, but never fully surrender their lives to Christ.
• Those considered “worthy” of God’s kingdom (by earthly standards) will surprise us.

Where did these lessons come from? Let’s break down the seven main passages in Matthew 22:1-14 to find out.

Matthew 22:1-3—Intro, first invitation, and the kingdom of heaven rejected

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“Once more Jesus spoke to them in parables: ‘The kingdom of heaven is like a king who gave a wedding banquet for his son. He sent his servants to summon those invited to the banquet, but they didn’t want to come’” (CSB).

Jesus likely told the parables of Matthew 21 (the Parable of the Two Sons and the Parable of the Wicked Vinedressers) in the same setting as this parable. Because He starts with the words, “Once more” (CSB) or “Again” (NKJV). Each parable teaches an aspect about the kingdom of heaven, and He makes it clear that this one represents the Gospel invitation.

In first-century Jewish culture, guests received initial invitations that didn’t include start times. Almost like a “save the date” card. Once a feast was ready, hosts sent personal messengers out to those who’d RSVP’d “yes.” It honored wedding guests by letting them know the feast was starting.⁹

This parable is picking up at the point when an original invitation already went out. It represents the original Gospel invitation to the Jews through Old Testament prophets. So the first call in this parable was really a second invitation to the Jews. And it can represent John the Baptist, Jesus, and Jesus’ disciples spreading the Gospel.¹⁰

When this parable starts, the original invited guests no longer want to come, as demonstrated through the excuses they give. These guests represent the Jews (notably the leaders) who rejected the Gospel.

But despite the stubborn blindness of the leaders, Jesus wanted them to accept the invitation. We can see this in His heartfelt plea in the very next chapter:

“O Jerusalem, Jerusalem, the city that kills the prophets and stones those who are sent to it! How often would I have gathered your children together as a hen gathers her brood under her wings, and you were not willing!” (Matthew 23:37, ESV).

To be clear, It’s not that God only wanted to save the Jews at first. It’s that He had chosen them for a special job—to represent Him as His Gospel messengers to the world (Deuteronomy 7:6; Exodus 19:5-6).

What’s sad is that He wasn’t calling them to a life of rigidity, pride, and legalism, as the Pharisees generally promoted, but to “celebration and rest” (Matthew 11:28-30; John 10:10). And that’s true of His call to us, too.

The Jewish leaders in Israel had great religious knowledge. So they should’ve been the first to recognize their Savior!

But they became so entrenched in their own religious framework and human hierarchy. So they were frustrated with Jesus because He wasn’t what they were personally hoping for (​​Isaiah 53:2-3; John 12:37). And they misled others by their own rejection of His beautiful, selfless invitation:

“Woe to you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! You shut the door of the kingdom of heaven in people’s faces. For you don’t go in, and you don’t allow those entering to go in” (Matthew 23:13, CSB).

Despite this, God didn’t give up on them, just as the King in the parable calls for his guests a second time.

Matthew 22:4—Second invitation: everything is ready

“Again, he sent out other servants, saying, ‘Tell those who are invited, “See, I have prepared my dinner; my oxen and fatted cattle are killed, and all things are ready. Come to the wedding’” (CSB).

This can point forward to how God gave the Jewish leaders a second chance after they killed Jesus:

“This, the second call of the parable was given [to] the Jews by the disciples, after Christ’s crucifixion, resurrection, and ascension to heaven. The disciples were to work first ‘in Jerusalem, and in all Judaea’ before going forth ‘unto the uttermost parts of the earth’ (Acts 1:8).”¹¹

This renewed invitation represents a heavenly Father pleading with His children. He has everything set. He’s prepared the best for them. Everything they could possibly need to thrive and enjoy themselves in His kingdom. And now He’s saying, “it’s time! Come to the feast!”

Just as there was still a chance for the guests to come to the feast, there’s a chance to accept Christ as long as we live. Or until He returns to take His followers to Heaven.

As the Parable of the Ten Virgins shows us, the door to the “feast” will one day close for good (Matthew 25:10-13).

Matthew 22:5-6—Two negative responses to the invitation

“But they made light of it and went their ways, one to his own farm, another to his business. And the rest seized his servants, treated them spitefully, and killed them” (CSB, emphasis added).

This reaction demonstrates two types of reactions people have to the Gospel:

1. Indifference and preoccupation with the things of this world
2. Anger and confrontation

(There’s also a third reaction related to the man who enters without the wedding garment. More on that later.)

There’s nothing wrong with working hard at our jobs. Or focusing on our families, relationships, or hobbies. Or enjoying the things God created in this world He gave us. But when we focus on things or people above or instead of Jesus, we lose sight of God’s kingdom.

That’s why Matthew 6:33 says, “Seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things will be added to you” (ESV).

The wedding guests that had a rather violent response to the invitation have a more specific application:

“This refers primarily to Jewish persecutions of the early Christians (see Acts 8:14). … Stephen was the first to fall (see Acts 6:9-15; 7:54-60). James, the first of the Twelve to be martyred, was also a victim of the enmity of the Jewish leaders (see Acts 12:1-3).”¹²

Jesus already knew the Jewish nation would reject His second invitation. But He still warned them through this parable.

Jesus also warns the religious leaders (and everyone, really) of something else…

Matthew 22:7—Cities destroyed: God’s response to rejection and violence

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“But when the king heard about it, he was furious. And he sent out his armies, destroyed those murderers, and burned up their city” (NKJV).

Experts agree that this was a prophecy about the destruction of Jerusalem in 70 AD by the Romans (Luke 21:20).¹³

The Bible shows that when people separate themselves from God, they’re siding with Satan. He is the enemy of God and humans (1 Peter 5:8; Revelation 12:9-10). It’s God who gives us breath and preserves us day by day (Lamentations 3:22-23; Psalm 34:7). And often, people don’t realize how much God protects them until He withdraws that protection. Then they see the danger of placing their trust in other “gods.”

The leaders in Israel risked their own souls by refusing the Messiah’s invitation. But they also misled an entire nation who looked to them as spiritual guides (Matthew 15:14; 23:24).

Though a “furious” king sounds like a harsh image of God, imagine a loving mother. Let’s say the mother of two children warns them to beware of a dangerous bull on the neighbor’s farm. But the older child keeps convincing the younger one that it’s safe to climb into the bull pen with him. A good parent will be upset, especially with the older child who would have endangered not only themselves, but their younger sibling as well.

Now let’s say these kids become teens and the older one talks the younger into a joyride that causes a huge wreck. Their mother (and the police) may decide that the best thing for their future is to let them spend some time in jail. If they’re always rescued from disobedience, it could lead to far worse consequences for themselves and others.

In other words, though we may struggle with God’s discipline, it’s actually a reflection of Jesus’ deep love for all people.

Now for the really cool part of the parable.

Matthew 22:8-10—Third invitation: the Gospel goes to everyone

“Then he said to his servants, ‘The wedding feast is ready, but those invited were not worthy. Go therefore to the main roads and invite to the wedding feast as many as you find.’ And those servants went out into the roads and gathered all whom they found, both bad and good. So the wedding hall was filled with guests” (ESV).

This represents the Gospel going to the “lower class” Jews and to the gentiles. This idea directly contrasted many Pharisees’ belief that God would only save the religious elite and the wealthy.¹⁴

But this parable teaches the that opposite is true:

“The religious leaders at the time of Jesus believed that the common people were accursed. … And when Jesus began His ministry, who was it that even heralded His birth? Two classes: The poor class of Jews, and gentiles. Those are the ones who end up going to the feast. When Jesus began pulling together His team, did He get the priests and the lawyers and religious leaders? Or did He get fishermen [and] tax collectors? That’s what it’s talking about—because they [the religious leaders] would not accept Him.”¹⁵

This parable shows “the great reversal of the expected response to the coming Messiah.”¹⁶ The outcasts accepted Jesus while the leaders of Israel rejected Him. It’s a repeated theme in the Gospel. Those we expect to receive salvation are often lost and the so-called “sinners” are often saved.

The word “worthy” can make us think of earning salvation. But that’s not what Jesus meant.

Imagine you planned your wedding and you paid $50 per person for the food alone. And a friend who lives in town and RSVP’d “yes” for his family of four says at the last minute, “You know what? I’m not coming. I’m taking my family to this new restaurant opening instead.”

Now imagine they do something like this almost every time you make plans with them. Is that a real friendship? Nope. They’ve proven they don’t value you or what you’re offering.

This parable shows that “worthiness” in God’s eyes isn’t by works or status. It’s by surrender to the truth—that Jesus is “the way, the truth, and the life” (John 14:6). Our ticket to God’s kingdom is as simple as making Jesus the Prince of our hearts and our lives.

That’s why after Jesus died, the Apostle Peter said God was calling a new “chosen people” to spread the Gospel (1 Peter 2:4-10).

Those we least expect to see at the King’s table are most likely to accept the invitation. They humbly recognize their need for a Savior when others don’t (Matthew 9:13).

This section ends with the best news ever: “The wedding hall was filled with guests” (verse 10). This tells us there’s no shortage of space in God’s kingdom (John 14:2; Revelation 7:9). The more, the merrier.

It’s also important to note that the “wedding hall” represents the church on earth.¹⁷ Both “good and bad” may join the church, but sin won’t enter heaven (Revelation 21:27; 2 Peter 3:13). That’s why the wedding garment (Christ’s righteousness) matters.

And that rolls right into what the parable covers next.

Matthew 22:11-13—Man without wedding clothes: Christians rejecting Christ’s righteousness

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“When the king came in to see the guests, he saw a man there who was not dressed for a wedding. So he said to him, ‘Friend, how did you get in here without wedding clothes?’ The man was speechless.

 

“Then the king told the attendants, ‘Tie him up hand and foot, and throw him into the outer darkness, where there will be weeping and gnashing of teeth’” (CSB).

The king’s inspection represents the Second Coming. At that time, Jesus will judge between true and false followers. And “the man without a wedding garment represents Christians who feel no need of transformation of character.”¹⁸

These are “Christians” who have no personal walk with Jesus Christ. There’s no real relationship, spiritual growth, or effort toward understanding who God is.

These people might do a lot of “good things,” but they don’t really know God or His character. And their motivation isn’t based on having God’s law of love written on their hearts. That’s why Jesus says:

“Not everyone who says to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of heaven, but only the one who does the will of My Father in heaven. On that day many will say to Me, ‘Lord, Lord, didn’t we prophesy in Your name, drive out demons in Your name, and do many miracles in Your name?’ Then I will announce to them, ‘I never knew you. Depart from Me, you lawbreakers!’” (Matthew 7:21-23, CSB).

But this is something only God can determine. Only He can read the heart and motives (1 Samuel 16:7; 1 Kings 8:39). That’s why it’s the king himself who comes to inspect the guests:

“When the king came in to view the guests, the real character of all was revealed. For every guest at the feast there had been provided a wedding garment. This garment was a gift from the king. By wearing it the guests showed their respect for the giver of the feast. But one man was clothed in his common citizen dress. He had refused to make the preparation required by the king. The garment provided to him at great cost he disdained to wear. Thus he insulted his lord. To the king’s demand…he could answer nothing. He was self-condemned.”¹⁹

Yet, the king approaches this man gently, calling him “friend.” This man didn’t have to leave. But instead of repenting or asking for help to make things right, the man says nothing. He appears to believe he’s in the right—or he’s too proud to admit otherwise.

We see this mercy acted out when Jesus asks God to forgive His persecutors as He hangs dying on the Cross (Luke 23:34).

It’s not believing in God, having religious knowledge, and going to church that makes us part of God’s kingdom. It’s about accepting Jesus with a humble spirit—ready to do His will and reflect His character.

It almost feels wrong to end a Cinderella-like story with someone getting thrown out of the party. But this parable is an invitation and a wake-up call.

After all, the Jews were about to reject and kill the true Prince and persecute His messengers (Matthew 26:3-4; Acts 5:17-18). It was just as the parable predicted.
God gives us chance after chance after chance.

But we have a choice.

We can choose to be like Lot’s wife, unable to let go of the lures of this crumbling world (Genesis 19:15-17, 26). Or we can look to Jesus Christ, who calls us to Him with a heart of love, joy, and peace. Because when He returns, He’ll destroy sin forever and restore peace. And that means everyone still clinging to sin (our old garments) instead of His righteousness (the new garment He offers us) will no longer exist (2 Corinthians 5:17).

That’s what the outer darkness in the parable represents: eternal death. Eternal separation from our life-giving Creator and King (2 Thessalonians 1:9; Psalm 37:20).

Accepting Christ’s invitation or not isn’t a choice between the wedding feast and going about our merry way. Revelation, and several other parts of Scripture, show us that we all have only two choices:

1. The marriage supper of the lamb (Revelation 19:9)
2. A feast (or gathering) of judgment (Revelation 20:11-15)

It’s a choice between accepting what we deserve or accepting Jesus’ offer to stand in our place. As Romans 6:32 says, “The wages of sin is death, but the free gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord” (CSB).

That’s why Jesus doesn’t sugarcoat the tough parts of the parable. This stuff is life or death.

It’s also a choice between two princes: “The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have life and have it abundantly” (John 10:10, ESV).

Jesus invites us to His feast to save us from destruction—not as a threat, but because He loves us.

With that in mind, why is it that Jesus says only a few people actually want a way out? Let’s explore that last.

Matthew 22:14—All are invited to God’s kingdom, but few choose it

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“For many are called, but few are chosen” (ESV).

This is actually twofold. Yes, Jesus will choose who to grant salvation to in the end. But His choice is really based on our individual choices. Let’s break that down.

The offer of eternal life in God’s heavenly kingdom is for the whole world (John 3:16; Mark 16:15). We see this invitation again and again. And it’s even one of the last things the Bible says (Revelation 22:17).

So, why are few chosen?

Well, would you choose someone to live with you who didn’t want to live with you?

It seems few in this world maintain a genuine desire for the life Jesus offers. He emphasizes this tragedy in His famous Sermon on the Mount:

“The gate is wide and the way is easy that leads to destruction, and those who enter by it are many. For the gate is narrow and the way is hard that leads to life, and those who find it are few” (Matthew 7:13-14, ESV).

We’re meant to live our lives: work, have kids, get married, go to school, travel—you name it. But those aren’t supposed to be what we worship. The Bible also says to surrender all our plans to God (Proverbs 16:9). And to give Him the glory in all we do (1 Corinthians 10:31). Otherwise, we’re turning down His royal invitation for earthly things we get fixated on, like wealth, career, fame, etc.

We don’t have to earn salvation, but it still requires full commitment—a real decision (Philippians 2:12; Romans 12:1). And that’s because choosing a life at odds with the way the sinful world works will bring challenges (John 16:33).

But the things that grow us and lead to better things often do involve challenges and a shift in our priorities.

It’s like choosing to have children, start a workout routine, or train for a new career. They come with challenges and shifts in priorities, but the sacrifices are worth it. And they bring joy in the process (1 Peter 1:8-9).

So none of this is about salvation by works. Nowhere in this parable does it show people working to earn their invitations.

But it does give us clues about why so few find the way to salvation:

1. Distraction by things that don’t matter beyond this life
2. Pride of self, heritage, or status getting in the way of transformation
3. Unwillingness to surrender “self.”

The Bible tells us the importance of making conscious daily decisions about who we serve (Joshua 24:15). Without an ongoing commitment, we can seem like “good Christians” but be totally out of sync with God (Matthew 7:22-23).

So it is possible for us to “choose” Christianity in the same way the man without the wedding garment “chose” to attend the wedding feast. But Jesus looks deeper, like the king who came to inspect the guests. He’s able to see if we truly choose Him or not (see John 15:14; Romans 8:5-8; Matthew 7:21).

The man at the wedding feast showed up—but refused to accept the King’s gift of royal garments. And there’s another parallel here—Satan also wanted to live in God’s kingdom, but on his own terms (Isaiah 14:12-14). In the end, it revealed his selfish heart and a lack of trust in God. And this mindset brought sin into the picture.

So instead of looking at this like we’d somehow be losing something…look at what we’ll be gaining!

With that, let’s see what this parable means for all of us here and now.

How we can apply the parable today

The Parable of the Wedding Banquet teaches us that we’re all invited to “feast” with Jesus in heaven and then the New Earth. And no excuse is worth missing out on eternal life (Luke 14:16:20).

Yet this story also shows us that pride, worldly distractions, and insincere Christianity can cause us to miss the best party we’ll ever be invited to.

Jesus longs to show us that He is the Prince in this story. He’s offering us freedom from the evil “prince” who rules in this world right now (John 12:31; Ephesians 6:12; 2 Corinthians 4:4). And what He offers is far better than anything we can imagine (Ephesians 3:20).

He shows us that eternal life with Him is something to look forward to with joy—like a wedding feast.

So even if we feel like outsiders, or if we’re looked down upon by those considered to be “elite” in this world…we can know that this is not at all the criteria God uses as He invites us all into salvation with Him!

Your Invitation Awaits

When we accept this invitation, it’s the choice to live a new way of life—as a bride and groom so choose when they say “I do.”

And like a wedding, it’s a new life based on a personal relationship. That’s why Revelation 3:20 says,

“See! I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears My voice and opens the door, I will come in to him and eat with him, and he with Me” (CSB).

As God knocks on the proverbial doors of our hearts, sure we can peek through the peephole and acknowledge He’s there…but that’s hardly a relationship. So the way we accept His invitation is with an invitation of our own—letting Him into our lives.

Jesus Himself is the Prince of this story—so it’s fitting that it’s Him who tells us this parable. He’s holding an invitation out to each one of us right now with an open hand, longing for us to say “Yes!

Let’s go!” The happy ending in the Parable of the Wedding Feast is ours for the taking.

“No eye has seen, nor ear heard, nor the heart of man imagined, what God has prepared for those who love Him” (1 Corinthians 2:9, ESV).

So may our prayer be for God to help us keep our eyes on Him, so that our lives and traditions don’t become higher priorities than they’re meant to be. Because Jesus already set a place at the table for every single one of us to feast with Him in the kingdom of heaven. Now that’s worth celebrating!

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Takeaway:

We’re all invited! It’s our choice whether or not to accept. And our priorities will ultimately reveal our choice.

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